IDENTITY, DIVERSITY AND RELATIONSHIPS COUNSELLING

A counsellor who is genuinely curious about who you are. Person-centred counselling with Pamela Muir, available in person in Nairn and online across the UK.

Counselling that makes room for all of who you are.

Identity is complicated. It shifts, evolves, and sometimes comes into conflict with the world around us or the people we love. Whether you’re navigating questions about your gender, your sexuality, your cultural identity, or the complexity of your relationships, having a space to explore those questions without judgement matters enormously.

Relationships are complicated too. The people we love most can also be the source of our deepest pain. Affairs, betrayals, the quiet erosion of trust, the particular challenges of relationships that don’t fit a conventional mould, all of it deserves to be taken seriously and explored with care.

AREAS OF SPECIALIST SUPPORT

Whoever you are, you’re welcome here.

I have a strong commitment to equality and diversity, and I am certified to work with Diversity Within Contemporary Relationships. I offer counselling across a wide range of identity and relationship experiences.

  • LGBTQ+ counselling

  • Gender dysphoria

  • Race and racial identity

  • Racism

  • Discrimination

  • Non-monogamy

  • Affairs and betrayals

  • Diversity within relationships

  • Spirituality

If your experience isn’t on that list, please don’t let that put you off. Come and have a conversation.

Viktor E. Frankl

“Each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”

LGBTQ+ Counselling and Identity Support in Nairn and Online

I’m genuinely curious about your experience, not just professionally.

My commitment to equality and diversity isn’t a box I tick. It’s something I bring into every session. I am curious about the experiences of others and sensitive to cultural differences, and I understand that for many people, finding a counsellor who actually gets it, rather than one who merely tolerates it, makes all the difference.

Whether you’re working through questions about your identity, navigating a relationship structure that others don’t understand, processing the impact of racism or discrimination, or exploring your spirituality, you deserve a space where you don’t have to explain or justify yourself before we get to the actual work.

Relationship work is something I find particularly meaningful. The dynamics within relationships, whether monogamous or not, whether new or long-established, whether intact or breaking down, are endlessly complex and deeply human. I’m here for all of it.

Sessions are 50 minutes, available in person at my counselling bothy near Nairn, online, or by telephone. I work with clients across Scotland and the UK. Fees are £40 to £55 on a sliding scale.

I trained at the University of the Highlands and Islands, am a registered member of both BACP and COSCA, and am certified to work with Diversity Within Contemporary Relationships.

Identity and relationship counselling wherever you are in the UK.

Online counselling means you can access support from wherever you feel most comfortable. For many LGBTQ+ clients and those exploring questions of identity, being able to choose a counsellor based on fit rather than geography makes a real difference.

I work with clients online across the whole of the UK. Sessions are available Monday to Friday, 10am to 8.30pm.

FREE 20-minute initial consultation

50 minutes per session

sliding scale £40-55

UK wide online availability

Frequently asked questions about identity and relationship counselling.

  • Yes. I work with LGBTQ+ clients in a fully affirmative way. That means I don’t treat your identity as the problem to be solved. I’m here to support you with whatever you’d like to explore, from coming out to navigating relationships to processing the impact of discrimination or family rejection.

  • Gender dysphoria counselling provides a space to explore your experience of gender without pressure or agenda. I’m not here to tell you what to do or who to be. I’m here to help you understand your own experience and find your own answers.

  • Absolutely. I am certified to work with Diversity Within Contemporary Relationships, which includes non-monogamous, polyamorous, and other relationship structures. You won’t be judged for how you choose to love.

  • Yes. I am sensitive to cultural differences and the very real impact of racism and discrimination on mental health and wellbeing. This is an area I take seriously and approach with genuine care.

  • Yes, no matter what the events that led to the rupture in your relationship, I am not here to assign blame and will hear you without judgement. The aftermath of an affair is complex and painful. Counselling can help you make sense of what happened and decide what you want to do next, without being told what the right answer is.

  • Not at all. Many people come to explore their patterns in relationships, their attachment style, or what they want from connection, entirely outside of a current relationship. You don’t need a partner present or a specific problem to work on.

  • Sessions are £40 to £55 for 50 minutes on a sliding scale. Pay what feels fair and appropriate for your circumstances. If cost is a real barrier, get in touch and we can look at what might be possible.

  • Come and have a chat anyway. The free 20-minute consultation is just a conversation. There’s no commitment and no pressure.

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The first step is a free 20-minute consultation. No commitment, no pressure.

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